Week 18-I don’t want to!

We live in a small town. Our paper comes out weekly. That’s just about right for this size town. Our assignment this week is to look at the paper every day and read the obituaries. Not gonna happen.

I could go to the store and buy the paper from a larger town that does have a daily paper. Except for Tuesday and Wednesday. We got a lot of snow and there were no newspapers for those two days. Not gonna do it.

It’s depressing.

We’re all gonna die. We know that. The way things are going, with all the “diseases” in the United States and all the side effects from all the drugs, people are dead long before their body dies. They are existing in “homes.”

It’s depressing.

People don’t die every day around here. When they do die, you don’t need to read the paper to know about it. You hear about it the day it happens. You don’t need to read the paper to know how they used their life, who they married, who they are survived by. You already know it.

The obituary is used to highlight their life. That’s not what their life was really like. They don’t mention the struggles, the character-building events, the intimate moments when they left an impact on others.

I want to remember them by how they lived their life, the smiles, the hugs, the moments when they reached out to help others, the moments when I reached out to help them.

I want to make an impact on others, not just have a list of “things” that I finished.

When I die, I’ve told my kids that I don’t care what you do with my body, or even if you have a funeral for me. A funeral is for the living, not the person who died. I care what happens now, not after I’m dead.

Let me show love and compassion now.

 

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Week 17 and 1/2-Ready, Set, Go!

I finally had time to listen to the Webinar Replay yesterday where our assignment was to read lesson 9 again. This morning I tried to read lesson 9. I read the cover page and the rabbit trail started.

I am a fairly confident person, but when it comes to talking to others about my business, I become “timid, vacillating, self-conscious, and over-anxious.” That’s the whole reason I took this course.

So the remedy is to substitute “thoughts of courage, power, self-reliance and confidence.” Hmm. How? Affirmations? They go out the window right before I need them.

I went to a training put on by my company last weekend and heard about putting the customer first. Okay, when I worked retail, I learned to put the customer first. But it wasn’t helping me here.

I’m not sure exactly what happened, but things started coming together. Somewhere I remember hearing about serving our customers, but not just waiting on them similar to a retail store, but being the servant to them. The analogy clicked when I thought about a master-slave relationship. The slave is to make the master’s life easier. A good slave will know what the master wants and can anticipate their desires.

In network marketing, it’s about building a relationship with people, finding out what their needs are, and letting them know how your products can help them. Sometimes they buy your product.

Wait a minute. That’s exactly what my future self told me during one of our sits. The light bulb finally goes on! Sometimes I get things right away, sometimes I don’t. This time took longer.

My new purpose is to build relationships with people. If my product can help them, I am now more excited that they got help than I am that I made a sale. Wow! How different is that?

For those of you who already understood this concept, please be excited for me.

I have started a new notebook. I am writing down “connections,” not prospects.

I am now excited at the thought of talking to people, not “timid, vacillating, self-conscious, or over-anxious.” Give me the phone. Let’s go!

Week 17-Excitement!

That seems to be my word for the week. Maybe it has something to do with my upcoming weekend. Several of my girlfriends and I are going to Branson for a conference this weekend. But we will have some free time for fun and games and shopping!

Mark J has been emphasizing all along to put feeling into everything. And this week’s read has some emphasis on feeling also.

Stop and think about the things from the past that have the most memory for you, good or bad. Now think about the feelings that go along with those memories. They usually aren’t just your everyday humdrum feelings, are they?

Studies have shown that women, in general, are better at remembering because their brains are wired to associate feelings with events, more than men.

Now stop and think about people who motivate you. Usually there is a lot of feeling involved, either through their words or their actions. They are passionate and that is probably what motivates you more than their words. This comes across in Mark J.

Close your eyes and just listen to Mark J. You can hear his passion. You can imagine what he is talking about and you’re ready to jump up and go do something!

And then life gets in the way and you settle back into your routine. The old peptides take over and that passion disappears, your dreams disappear, your hope disappears. You grow old and die.

What! Wait! I really don’t want that! I want my dreams! I want hope! Help!

Come over here feelings! Help me keep my hope! Help me keep my dreams! Where are my note cards? Let me do my daily readings. I need to get on the alliances and read, and share. Get rid of those old peptides! Give me new ones! Feelings! Feelings!

Hello hopes. Hello dreams. Please don’t leave me again. I have feelings now.

 

 

Week 16-That Kindness Thing

Our assignment this week is to find 2 acts of kindness everyday, as well as be kind yourself. Okay, I can do that. Day one easy enough. Day two, again easy. Day three, wait a minute. The human soul, in general is kind. There should be kindnesses everywhere, all the time. We shouldn’t have to be told to be kind. That should just be a natural part of everyday life. It goes along with respect for others

Children need to be taught respect, not just for others, but for themselves as well as everything. That will give value to everyone and everything in the child’s eye as well as the recipients eye. Kindness as well as a lot of other values go along with respect.

Children who aren’t taught respect are sometimes labeled “spoiled brats.” It’s not the child’s fault. He doesn’t know any better.

But as adults, we have learned. Our old blueprint may be a spoiled brat, but we have experienced kindness enough to know about it, to receive it, and how good it feels to give it.

Now that we are focusing on kindness, it should be evident everywhere. From itty bitty, almost not worth mentioning kindnesses, to great big over the top kindnesses. We just didn’t pay attention to it before.

Now that our focus has changed, aren’t you smiling just a little bit more?

Week 15-Change

“Our actions are not governed by knowledge, but by custom, precedent, and habit.”

This statement had me baffled. How do we change, if our actions are based on previous action? It’s like the question of which came first, the chicken or the egg.

I was stuck on this sentence for a long time trying to logically figure it out. Oh, wait. Let’s read the next sentence, “That the only way we can get ourselves to apply knowledge is by a determined conscious effort.”

Okay, so I’m not stuck anymore, relief.

This course is all about change. We’ve been given so many ways to help us change, to use several different methods to apply a determined conscious effort, until that effort becomes a custom, precedent, or habit, and conscious effort is no longer needed.

This is a constantly changing world. We need to be able to change. All these methods to help us change enable us to change any behavior of ourselves that we want, whether simple or complex.

Knowing how to change isn’t going to get us anywhere. We have to apply it. We have to make a determined conscious effort.

Now I know to read the next sentence before spending all day trying to figure out one sentence. Don’t take the sentence by itself or out of context. Read one or two sentences before it and one or two sentences after it. Oh wait, I’ve created precedence. I can change.

I have had the word “focus” posted on my bulletin board for two years trying to keep my life focused on the things that are important to me, but life kept getting in the way and soon I would be sidetracked. I am learning to make a determined conscious effort to stay focused, to set new precedents, create new customs, and create new habits for the things that are important to me. I am learning to stay focused on life, not just on one sentence.

 

Week 14-And the moral of the story is. . .

I just got done watching October Sky. I don’t normally choose to watch movies like this. I have seen “Cool Runnings” and “Ruby” several times and I knew October Sky would be similar. After using several tissues, I was able to compose myself.

It helped to take notes of the 4 things that Mark mentioned. They weren’t that hard to find. It also brought home the fact that you can use this process on anything that needs to be accomplished from fixing dinner to buying your dream home.

What fascinated me about this movie is how smart the son was to continue to reach out to his Dad. I hit pause several times to explain things to my 9 year old granddaughter who was watching it with me. My daughter, her mother, has several of the qualities that the dad had. I wanted my granddaughter to know how much her mother loves her and is trying to do her best to raise her. I wanted my granddaughter to know that no matter how mad her mother was, that she should continue to reach out to her mother.

I don’t choose movies like this because of the crying thing. However, I do not regret watching this movie.

Week 13-Persistence

Okay, so we’re 13 weeks in. New habits should be forming. Things should be getting easier and going smoother. Why is my old blue print screaming so loud and seemingly doing everything in it’s power to derail the new blueprint? The new peptides should be there and the old peptides should have faded by now!

Four of the adults in our family have started a new eating plan. It is going quite smooth. No trouble here with the old peptides trying to beat out the new peptides. It seems like these old peptides quietly went to sleep and only wake up once in a while and go right back to sleep without much commotion.

I make a new schedule to fit all the new things in and find conflict almost at every turn! Ahhhhhh!

I am fine. I just needed to vent.

One thing that hasn’t had to change because this peptide was already in place, was persistence. Other people called it stubbornness.

The old peptides (will eventually) disappear and the new ones are being created. Now that I’ve got that out of my system, my persistence (or stubbornness) helps me to continue on.

I persist.

I succeed!